I realized that I didn’t put out a new post through out the month of June. Blame that on the baggage 2020 has given us to deal with. It’s no longer a new thing and I’m quite sure that we are adjusting pretty well. Don’t forget to hang in there, stay positive and take it slow, one day at a time.

I thought to break my silence here with a life lately post, you know like a quick catch up as it’s been a minute I did that. Keep reading if you this interests you.

I’m not sure where to start from but hey let’s start from here.

In May, I put out a post where I shared my struggles as a single mom and that right there has been one of the best things I’ve done for myself this year. It felt like a huge load was lifted from my shoulders. The response I received made me realize how much I loved my small community. I literally cried all day listening to your voice messages, kind words. Some of you went a step further to give Amabel and I gifts, some of you told me I could count on you for anything. I would never take that for granted. You mean sooo much to me. Thank you! If you’ve not read that post yet, you should, it’s currently the most read post on this blog.

Coming out of that shell gave me an opportunity to spread my wings because hey, it was time to soar! I gave myself an opportunity to own my self, my struggles, my wins and to talk about them shamelessly. I gained freedom, peace of mind, and the will to keep fighting for what’s mine. I was going to give in to letting Amabel go but NO, I’ve made a resolve to fight for her custody.

It won’t matter if this decision will make me work 10 times harder than my mates who have the same opportunity as me, it wouldn’t matter if I have to strive harder to get a better life so I can give her the life and privileges she deserves. My weakness has transformed to strength and shame to boldness. I will pull through this phase again and that’s what is important.

I still get that “wow, you’re a single mom look” lol but I’ve gotten used to it. I’m no longer worried about those who keep walking out of my life. I’m content with those who support me as I go on this journey of becoming a better version of me.


Life as a young Nigerian graduate as my Nigerian friends will say “no be come chop“.

It’s even worse if you’re not from a privileged background. You have to work your way up from the bottom.

No one warns you that after school and service year, you might go into the initial panic mode where you’ll start wondering what to do with your life.

My advice is to start early. Early enough to know the path you’ll want to tow before you graduate from the University or at least before you sign out of your service year. This will help you save time, money and energy.

Talking about service year, I just signed out of my national service year. For my non Nigerian friends, the National Service is a one year compulsory service course where young graduates enrol to serve the country. Usually, you’ll mobilize and register for this program after which you’ll be posted to where you’ll serve – a different State from your State of origin and the State where the university you graduated from is located. The aim of this program is to give you an opportunity to meet new people and experience the culture of the people in the area you serve.

I was posted to one of the Eastern States but I found my way back to Rivers State because I needed to be close to my daughter and I hadn’t quite figured out how I was going to cope without her. She had just turned 1 and so many things in our lives were yet to be fixed, to say our lives were unstable at that point would be an understatement.

The good part? That journey is over!! Corp members are always so excited when it’s time to exit the service year. If only they’d realize that it’s just the beginning of a new journey, the real life journey.


Not the kind of job I’d have thought I’d do haha! Well, let’s just say I’ll be into freelancing for a long time.

Sometime ago I mentioned randomly on one of my Instagram post captions that I’d like to have a job that gives me an opportunity to do what I love (content writing, social media and communication) and have fun while at it.

I really want to wear my laboratory coat again sometime in the future but first let’s concentrate on something that pays the bills for now.

I got a social media management gig the day I signed out from my youth service, it was the best gift ever! I think it was God’s way of telling me “hey I got you! Don’t be worried about anything”.

Let me tell you a little back story. I had randomly left a comment on one of the community pages I follow on social media. I wasn’t expecting anything, to me, it was just a comment. That comment gave me my best NYSC sign out gift!

I got a lot more enquiries after that but somehow I let a good number of them go. I always choose my peace of mind first before money.


I’m super proud of the Nessytalks brand. There’s a lot reform and ground work going on here. It’s important I make the foundation strong enough to carry the weight of the growth I’ll experience.

Nessytalks has gone through a lot of changes, if you’ve been with me from day 1 you’ll know this. We will keep redefining the brand to accommodate our growth. Again thank you for being a part of my journey, you are loved!

I’ve written quite a number of ebooks all thanks to being able to explore my creativity. The most recent one is what you see below. It’s my hand book on “How To Never Run Out Of Content Ideas” I’m giving it to you for FREE! But you have to give me a tip. All thanks to useshuran.

Useshukran is a fintech platform that allows you tip your favourite content creator (Me, haha! I know I’m your favourite that’s why you read up to this point), for the work they put into creating useful content for you.

I’ve gone a step further to make it even better. I’ll give you my Ebook for free when you give me a tip, sounds good right? Go on and give me a tip and you’ll be redirected to download a copy of the ebook. Don’t forget to leave me an encouraging message, I love to read them.

Until I spill again. I think I’ll put out more posts this month, so help me God. And yes, click this link to give me a tip just in case you skipped that before.

See you in my next post.


Vanessa ❤️