If I could describe my life as a young mom in just one word I would say it’s been fulfilling. It’s three months already but it was just yesterday. Yesterday we were talking about labour and delivery stories, and before that I took a step further to read and  learn all I could about pregnancy from what to expect to developmental changes.

The truth remains that one may never be fully prepared and it’s no surprise everything did not happen exactly the way it was written in the books.
It’s so easy to forget about the pain one had to go through to bring an innocent child into this world. When your little prince or princess arrives,  it seems like your life is starting all over as you hear their first cry, watch them in awe,  monitor every moment until you eventually see their first smile (that itself is so heartwarming), I remember my baby girl’s first smile,  it was at her dad, it was so sweet, and then the coos, the aah’s and ohh’s.

As a young mom I’ve learnt to adjust my lifestyle and adapt quickly to my new way of life. It can be overwhelming but yeah every moment is worth it. I’ve been a mom for a pretty short time and I’ve decided to share a few experiences and lessons I’ve learnt.
In Nigeria, we have the tradition of people trooping into your home when they hear the good news that a baby just arrived and you can’t stop them from visiting lol. I’ve had to bear the pain of listening to all kinds of advice from those who think they know better. It seems like everyone has an opinion to share.  This person comes in to tell you this and the other tells you that oftentimes contradicting themselves. The best way I handled this was not taking them too seriously, whenever I have doubts I do my research.

In this post I told you how difficult it is for me to hold conversations with people, I think I’ve made a little progress as I have tried to hold conversations with my visitors, you can’t remain so silent else they feel unwelcomed.

Life as a young mom, nessytalks

Sleep deprivation 

In the past 12 weeks I’ve not had my usual 8 hours night rest. I miss my beauty sleep like I wasn’t prepared for this part. On some days I stay awake all night with no hope of making up for the lost sleep and I become easily irritated when I’m not well rested, this has been the most difficult thing I’ve had to adjust to, how come no one warned me maybe I would have reconsidered. lol!

A new sense of responsibility

It’s amazing to have someone depend on you for all their needs. It’s a lot of responsibility and it’s so easy to blame yourself if something no matter how little goes wrong. One time she had a minor skin rash, a reaction to one of the body care products or so I thought,  I kept blaming myself, maybe I should have done this, Just maybe I shouldn’t have done it this or that way but I also forgot that Nigeria is so hot and I don’t have the option of keeping a baby’s body exposed.


So I wake up in the morning, hubs is out already,  I want to make breakfast, baby needs to have a bath, baby needs to eat, I have to eat too, I need to clean and wash baby’s stuff but then I want to do my hair and dab a little powder on my face, oh well  hold up mama!! One thing at a time thank you!
I’m getting better with multitasking but it can be draining sometimes. I read on ijefinelivin’s blog that multitasking can be overwhelming and sometimes you have to monotask, it not only helps you concentrate but helps you achieve more.


What do you do with a baby who’s slept all through the day only to stay awake at night? For someone like me who’d get irritated after staying awake through the night, you might find me angry and raising my voice my voice when I speak to people but I’ve learnt to be patient, it just for a moment. It’s okay to have hubs, mom or another adult hold the baby while I take a breather.
It actually surprises me now how I speak so calmly even when I’m upset.

It’s not easy but it’s worth it

Whoever said pregnancy, childbirth and being a mom is a piece of cake just told you a big fat lie.  There are moments when I just want to hide from the responsibility and it’s okay to feel that way but when I look at it from the positive side, it becomes my motivation to work hard, do better and get better because every mom would want to give their children the best life they deserve.

Children are gifts from God. They are his reward. I pray every woman who wishes to have this opportunity be granted her heart’s desires in good health and in God’s love. Amen.

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  1. 9th May 2018 / 10:19 pm

    You are doing just fine hun . Your darling is starring at me and her adorable face is making my ovaries leap but I am still trying to advice myself that i really dont wanna go down that lane again ooo.. Your post reminds me of my beginning days… the visitors kept coming cheii..
    You did not talk about the breastfeeding struggles, engorgement, sores, fever. Being a new mom is a whole lot, and i pray it gets better by the day for you. Thanks for the mention too

    • Vanessa
      11th May 2018 / 1:36 am

      Lol! Your comment just made smile. Please tell the ovaries to calm down o, Nigeria is hard. That breastfeeding part is a whole post on its own, This one was getting too long already. Amen to that prayer and thank you very much.

  2. 10th May 2018 / 10:30 am

    I can clearly relate with the multi tasking and sleepless night having lived with my big sister during this period of her life. The beauty is when they begin to grow older and talk to you in their own language, such priceless moments.

    • Vanessa
      11th May 2018 / 1:29 am

      Those moments are indeed PRICELESS. When they stare at you, talk to you in their own language and give you that heart melting smile it feels like all of your hard work is not in vain after all and it makes you want to do more just so you keep seeing them happy.
      Thank you so much Debs for all the support, God bless you.

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