If I could describe my life as a young mom in just one word I would say it’s been fulfilling. It’s three months already but it was just yesterday. Yesterday we were talking about labour and delivery stories, and before that I took a step further to read and learn all I could about pregnancy from what to expect to developmental changes.
The truth remains that one may never be fully prepared and it’s no surprise everything did not happen exactly the way it was written in the books.
It’s so easy to forget about the pain one had to go through to bring an innocent child into this world. When your little prince or princess arrives, it seems like your life is starting all over as you hear their first cry, watch them in awe, monitor every moment until you eventually see their first smile (that itself is so heartwarming), I remember my baby girl’s first smile, it was at her dad, it was so sweet, and then the coos, the aah’s and ohh’s.
As a young mom I’ve learnt to adjust my lifestyle and adapt quickly to my new way of life. It can be overwhelming but yeah every moment is worth it. I’ve been a mom for a pretty short time and I’ve decided to share a few experiences and lessons I’ve learnt.
In Nigeria, we have the tradition of people trooping into your home when they hear the good news that a baby just arrived and you can’t stop them from visiting lol. I’ve had to bear the pain of listening to all kinds of advice from those who think they know better. It seems like everyone has an opinion to share. This person comes in to tell you this and the other tells you that oftentimes contradicting themselves. The best way I handled this was not taking them too seriously, whenever I have doubts I do my research.
In this post I told you how difficult it is for me to hold conversations with people, I think I’ve made a little progress as I have tried to hold conversations with my visitors, you can’t remain so silent else they feel unwelcomed.
In the past 12 weeks I’ve not had my usual 8 hours night rest. I miss my beauty sleep like I wasn’t prepared for this part. On some days I stay awake all night with no hope of making up for the lost sleep and I become easily irritated when I’m not well rested, this has been the most difficult thing I’ve had to adjust to, how come no one warned me maybe I would have reconsidered. lol!
A new sense of responsibility
It’s amazing to have someone depend on you for all their needs. It’s a lot of responsibility and it’s so easy to blame yourself if something no matter how little goes wrong. One time she had a minor skin rash, a reaction to one of the body care products or so I thought, I kept blaming myself, maybe I should have done this, Just maybe I shouldn’t have done it this or that way but I also forgot that Nigeria is so hot and I don’t have the option of keeping a baby’s body exposed.
So I wake up in the morning, hubs is out already, I want to make breakfast, baby needs to have a bath, baby needs to eat, I have to eat too, I need to clean and wash baby’s stuff but then I want to do my hair and dab a little powder on my face, oh well hold up mama!! One thing at a time thank you!
I’m getting better with multitasking but it can be draining sometimes. I read on ijefinelivin’s blog that multitasking can be overwhelming and sometimes you have to monotask, it not only helps you concentrate but helps you achieve more.
What do you do with a baby who’s slept all through the day only to stay awake at night? For someone like me who’d get irritated after staying awake through the night, you might find me angry and raising my voice my voice when I speak to people but I’ve learnt to be patient, it just for a moment. It’s okay to have hubs, mom or another adult hold the baby while I take a breather.
It actually surprises me now how I speak so calmly even when I’m upset.
It’s not easy but it’s worth it
Whoever said pregnancy, childbirth and being a mom is a piece of cake just told you a big fat lie. There are moments when I just want to hide from the responsibility and it’s okay to feel that way but when I look at it from the positive side, it becomes my motivation to work hard, do better and get better because every mom would want to give their children the best life they deserve.
Children are gifts from God. They are his reward. I pray every woman who wishes to have this opportunity be granted her heart’s desires in good health and in God’s love. Amen.