It’s been a while on here, it feels good to be back. I sincerely missed creating contents for the blog, I know this doesn’t seem like the truth as I’ve not been the most consistent but it is and it warms my heart to see that you always come back to check for something new.


The past few months have been what
I’d refer to as “trying times”, I was in no way prepared for the challenges I’ve had to deal with this year, I had started this year on a pretty good note so watching everything go south has been heart breaking for me. It’s been a rough ride but I’m glad I’ve gotten to the point where I can boldly tell everyone that I’m doing alright.

It’s taken so much time to accept this new change and I’m accepting it because I want to keep living. For a very long time, I blamed myself for other people’s wrong choices and decisions, I’d try my best to see if I could undo the damage they caused but you know it gets to that point where you get tired of trying to help or reverse their damages because they’re unwilling to change.

I resolved to putting less pressure on myself in my bid to make people feel good and to stay positive on not so good days.
I’ve come to understand that it’s a process and I’m learning to cross over each hurdle gradually, one at a time and I’m making progress.

I want everyone who comes in contact with me to be happy, I don’t want to spread anger or hate or sadness and that’s the reason I’ve decided to forgive everyone who allowed themselves to be used as agents of hurt and hate. I can’t allow the world define the kind of person I’m meant to be neither can I allow other people’s foolishness cause me pain, not any more. I won’t even let their evil seeds of anger, strife, acrimony, bitterness, hostility, enmity to be planted in me, I’m wired differently and heart is meant to exude love, kindness and everything good that comes with being in Christ.

Forgiving and letting go means I’m giving myself the opportunity to heal and that’s the path I’ve chosen to take. I’m on a journey to healing, of self love, finding peace and happiness in me. We only give out what we have and if I’ve made the decision to spread happiness, I should have happiness me, not the pretentious kind of happiness but the happiness that comes from knowing that you have peace from living the kind of life you’ve chosen and in my case, I’m embracing simplicity, I’m appreciating the little things more, all those things you call simple, I’m deriving so much pleasure in them.



Earlier this year when I was privileged to move my site to a dot com site, I had felt like something good was about to happen, I had so many plans for the blog, I was still pretty new in this field and I was willing to put in the work but life happened and now it’s almost the end of the year and I feel I’ve not achieved my goals here, may be I should have pushed harder nonetheless but it’s never too late to retrace my steps. I’m ready now, let’s take this blog a step further shall we?

On that note, there’ll be little tweaks here and there on the blog, the blog design won’t change much, I love the current design, minimalist with less colours flying around. Tell me what you think about it in the comment section.

I’m also introducing a new category called mom talk. The top categories would still be natural haircare, motherhood, kids haircare and lifestyle. I can’t wait to execute all I have planned out. Please kindly subscribe to and follow the blog so that you don’t miss any new updates, I’ll really appreciate it. The subscription box is right at the end of this post. For my friends who are wondering why I always ask you to subscribe to the blog and share my blog posts, when you do any of the above, you help me grow, I appreciate it and I don’t take that for granted.

How has this year been for you? Have you ticked most goals off your bucket list?

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  1. Rumaisah
    2nd October 2018 / 7:29 pm

    Your blog is soo don’t even have to change anything coz I think it’s amazing like this. But then,it’s your site. Make it as cool as you want🙂I really enjoyed reading this post. Can’t wait for more from you.also, you have my YESSSSSSSSSS for the mom talk category (although I’m not going to be a mother anytime soon😂But I’m sure it will be very helpful for all the mothers out there).

    • Vanessa
      2nd October 2018 / 7:41 pm

      Thank you so much Rumaisah, thanks for reading, I hope you come back again.

  2. 2nd October 2018 / 7:44 pm

    What did you do to your hair? I want 😢

    Lol… Nice to have you back here, mamah

    • Vanessa
      2nd October 2018 / 8:06 pm

      Lol! But I didn’t do anything. Thank you so much dear.

  3. Shandy
    2nd October 2018 / 8:12 pm

    I love your blog, everything about it, beautiful colours, simple and nice, and yes to the journey you embarked on, i wish you achieve all you ‘ve set your mind on, the moms section will be so much fun too.

    • Vanessa
      2nd October 2018 / 8:22 pm

      Thank you so much Shandy. Please stay glued, I’m sure it’ll be fun too. Thanks for visiting my blog today, I hope you come back again.

  4. Raphangels
    2nd October 2018 / 8:31 pm

    This is really nice. What’s important is that you back and better because challenges only make one better

    • Vanessa
      2nd October 2018 / 9:05 pm

      I agree with you, thanks for reading Angel, please come back again.

  5. Jane
    2nd October 2018 / 8:35 pm

    My first time reading this,…. But it sure is good. Looking forward to reading more….

    • Vanessa
      2nd October 2018 / 9:07 pm

      Thank you Jane, please come back again.

  6. 2nd October 2018 / 8:40 pm

    Awww Nessy this is such a deep post and it feels like you wrote this for me because I was just got betrayed by two people I love dearly. I haven’t stopped crying and all the anger is just welling up. Reading this makes me want to do same and forgive and move on. I’m also glad you decided to redefined. I can’t wait for the contents you have planned for us.

    • Vanessa
      2nd October 2018 / 9:11 pm

      Thank you so much Gift. Forgiveness is a virtue, it may not be easy but please do for own peace of mind. 💖

  7. 2nd October 2018 / 11:09 pm

    To be honest, its been a tough year for me but that doesn’t mean I’m giving up on my goals. We keep pushing. I love your blog design btw; minimalist and a little bit of colour 👌🏽

    • Vanessa
      3rd October 2018 / 7:16 am

      Yes! We keep pushing. Thank you Chidinma.

  8. 3rd October 2018 / 9:44 am

    I love your blog design already. It’s like the black version of mine, lols but it’s pretty cool. i am so much looking forward to the new categories.

    On life, I am gradually learning that things would not always be glitters and roses so I sort of prepare my mind for rough days and take it as it comes.

    • Vanessa
      3rd October 2018 / 6:59 pm

      Thanks Debs, your blog is beautiful too. I used to be scared of the rough days but now I just face it.
      Thanks a lot for stopping by.

  9. ArielaCrystal
    3rd October 2018 / 2:32 pm

    Your blog is cool, love the color not flashy and the post spot on 😘😘😘

    • Vanessa
      3rd October 2018 / 7:00 pm

      Thank you Ariela.

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