Growing my natural has been one of the highlights of my personal care.
The journey to growing my hair from limp thinning relaxed hair to healthy natural hair has been an amazing journey and I’m glad that I took the leap to actually grow my hair healthy and long.
I have learnt a lot of things on this journey and in this post I’ll be sharing a few of them. I hope you learn a thing or two.
Patience
One important quality that I have had to learn is the quality of patience. I have learnt to be patient with my hair, I do not touch my hair when I am not in the mood. I have learnt that my hair grows from one stage to another at a time so I have to be patient with it while it’s grows through these phases.
Detangling your natural hair is something that will test your patience, sometimes you just end up with a whole head of tangled fro and you need a very high level of patience to thoroughly detangle and remove all the knots.
In real life, my hair journey has taught me to be patient with myself and with others.

Simplicity
My natural hair journey has taught me the value of simplicity. I have learnt that I do not need a lot of complication in my life. The simple hairstyles actually do a lot of magic and they always end up looking like they’re complicated, sometimes you’d think that it took a lot of work and maneuver to get my hair looking so fab! but the truth is that the simple hairstyles come out the best. This also applies to using products. I just stick to the basics and a simple routine which yields better results.
Juxtaposing this with real life, I have learnt to make my life as simple as possible. I appreciate everyone who makes doing life with them very easy and I also appreciate myself too for simplifying my life.

Less is more
Have you ever heard that less is more? Well, when it comes to natural hair care and my journey through growing long hair, less is actually more. Through my hair journey, I discovered that a little goes a long way and that I just need a little product on my hair, a little bit of this and that to actually see results.
Contentment
Growing my natural hair has taught me that I have to be contented. When I had a teeny weeny afro (I transitioned by the way, so I didn’t really go through this phase, I had a fro that I couldn’t hold into a bun) so I’ll just say when my hair was a lot shorter I always wanted a longer hair, one that would fit into a bun easily. Well, now that my hair is long I wish to have shorter hair on some days because it was a lot easier to handle but now I’ll have to be more patient. Longer hair means more tangles and more patience while detangling as well as more care and all of those healthy hair shenanigans.
The life lessons here is that you may not really need what you crave.

Everyone’s journey is different.
A lot of people achieved waist length hair in 3 years while some persons achieved that in 4 to 5 years.
However, I’ve come to understand that what is important is having healthy hair. Your hair texture and that of the girl next door may not be the same. Some persons have really thick hair they can easily comb into a fro, some persons have hair that defies gravity while others like myself have fine hair which falls. We don’t have to go through the same path but our destination might be the same or maybe not.
The life lesson here is that we should all concentrate on our own journey one step after another.
I trust you learnt a something from this. What lessons has growing your hair taught you? Share with me in the comments.
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Vanessa ❤️
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I’m a male, I would have started the process, but I would beg my future wife to try and love it.
Hahahaha! Thank you for your comment Braxton. Don’t forget to share this post with your female friends.
I’ve learnt a lot about hair care as a result of my natural hair journey, I’ve learned to love and appreciate my hair type….. I’ve been able to inspire ladies around me to accept and love their God given hair.
My hair journey has been an interesting I must confess and I’m glad I embark on it!
Your hair is gorgeous!! Thank you for your continuous support Maureen, the Nessytalks brand loves you!
Hmm…. With my natural hair I have learnt that patience is indeed a virtue….
I have also been reminded that everything will not go the way we want it… and that’s still fine.
Patience is indeed a virtue.. And even if everything do not go as planned, we have to make good use of the present situation. Thank you for reading, can’t wait to have you again.
This is really lovely. As an ex-naturalista I still go by these lessons
Thank you so much Zobam.
Love this. I’m encouraged and inspired now after reading this. I just started this journey in October and this is March. Sometimes I feel like I don’t know what I’m doing, other times I feel hopeless. Up till now I still do not know what products or how to manage my hair. There are just a lot of information out there and the more I read them, the more confused I become on how to grow my natural hair. But read this is like calming my nerves and giving me hope so thank you!
Hey Queen, your hair won’t grow in one day, it’s a process. Just stick to the basics. Get yourself a shampoo, deep conditioner, leave in conditioner, hair oil or butter. Learn how to use them and be consistent. You don’t have to do too much at once. Soon you’ll get a hang of it. Happy hair journey! ❤️